Recently, I’ve had a small digital hiatus. As I thought about using social media or writing this blog, I immediately started dreading it.
A lot of it has to do with how busy I am throughout the day. I don’t have time to be on social media or reading articles online. Once I do make it home after a 10, 12, or even 16 hour day, I am ready to lie down. Instead, though, I do homework. At that point, I have no further interest in being “online.”
More to the point, though: it is utterly exhausting to be online.
The constant stream of information can be too much. Everything from the cat videos (i.e., why the internet was invented) to the news. I doubt any of us are strangers to this feeling of overwhelm. As organizers and social-justice-minded folx, we’re well acquainted with the woes of the world, and with the mass availability and accessibility of the internet. We’re surrounded. You can’t access your cat videos without news updates (nor should you, I think). It’s a gift and a burden, and one I often struggle to manage.
This requires talking about mental health. Talking about self-care. Talking about what it means to have the agency to say no. To not open Facebook, or the news, or Instagram, or even your e-mail. (This can be for general exposure or for the feeling of needing to engage with others about their views/actions/et cetera.)
A typical response is it criticize people for “opting out” or for being ignorant. (I often criticize myself in this way.) Falling into this trap is easy. Many folx do “opt out” of things they have more privilege in, so that is always a valid concern.
But, can such a response be an ableist one? In that moment, are we supporting our friends that struggle with mental health issues when we call them out for not be able to engage? Are we supporting our friends who are exhausted from being marginalized and oppressed for not engaging? How can we encourage self-care, and then criticize how people do so?
Let’s be real: Unwell people are not nearly as effective at changing the world.
Personally, the more I am exposed, without reprieve (thanks, internet), to the terrors of the world, the more I struggle to be well. Sometimes, being plugged in and connected simply isn’t the answer for me. I have to monitor my use, engagement, and exposure to ensure my own personal sustainability. I encourage us all to not only care for ourselves in our own ways and to be understanding of when others are managing their experiences.
– anza jarschke
[Featured image: a grey and black tabby cat looks perturbed while sitting in front of a laptop with their paw on a computer mouse. Source: Unknown]